6 signs that your online date can't be trusted
That's why it's very important to check with a trusted adult—your parent, or a the website you are going to or have just gone to has accurate and up-to-date information. You thought you were going to a responsible website and then you ended gross, and/or weird, or more than you ever want to see about bodies or sex. Some have tried Internet dating (with mixed results), and others have friends on I am not the biggest fan of the setup – at least where parents or parent-types are involved. Even thought your parents will want to hear how things went, be clear “Worst case scenario, you'll get some funny stories out of it. And You Thought Your Parents Were Weird (). PG | 1h 32min | Comedy, Family, Fantasy | 15 . Release Date: 15 November (USA) See more».
Are their matchmaking attempts your worst nightmare or best resource? I am not the biggest fan of the setup — at least where parents or parent-types are involved. Years ago, when I was planning for a brief move to New York City, a good friend of my parents came for dinner, cocked her head slightly and issued a firm declaration: He proved to be an excellent resource for my many important questions, such as where to get a decent scoop of ice cream on the Upper West Side.
Months later, I arrived in the city and we met up. Our first date, strolling through the West Village with ice cream cones, of course was promising. Martin was a little awkward, but as he shared his love of books and food and what he had thus far learned in this seemingly overwhelming metropolis, I found myself warming to his geek charm. When I mentioned that I wanted to see some live jazz, he offered to take me the following week.
This is where the story takes a turn. He continued drinking at a rapid clip, as I sipped a single glass of red wine, admired his vast collection of Penguin Classics and tried not to get too close to him. When it was finally time to leave, at around midnight, Martin grabbed his keys and a sizable flask of gin, straightened his blazer, and then put on his sunglasses. When we finally got into the jazz club — after a brief stop to pick up some beer for Martin to mix with his gin — we found a little table not more than a few feet from an upright bass.
I prayed for the show to start soon so Martin would stop slurring in my ear. It was good and lively. I relaxed a little. I looked over at Martin. He was passed out over the back of his chair, mouth wide open.
I wondered, briefly, if he was dead. But soon the rising and falling of his chest became apparent, and I figured it was best for everyone if he remained unconscious. When the superb first act ended 45 minutes later, the applause woke Martin up. But instead of letting those feelings stop you from talking, put them into words as part of the conversation.
It can help to defuse things by beginning with a statement like, "Mom, I have something to tell you. I'm not proud of what I've done, and you might be mad. But I know I need to tell you. Can you hear me out? Pick a Good Time to Talk Approach your parent when he or she isn't busy with something else.
Talking to Your Parents - or Other Adults
Ask, "Can we talk? Is now a good time? If it's hard to find a good time, say, "I need to talk to you. When is a good time? Think ahead about what you want to say or ask. Write down the most important ideas if you need to. Emotions and past experiences can get in the way.
Will parents take you seriously, believe what you say, listen to and respect your opinions, and hear you out without interrupting? A lot depends on your parent. Some parents are easy to talk to, some are great listeners, and some are harder to approach. But some of what happens depends on you, too.
Since communication is a two-way street, the way you talk can influence how well a parent listens and understands you.
6 signs that your online date can't be trusted
So here are some guidelines to consider when talking to parents: Be clear and direct. Be as clear as you can about what you think, feel, and want.
Give details that can help parents understand your situation. They can listen better or be more helpful if they understand what you mean and what's really going on. If you're always honest, a parent will be likely to believe what you say.
And You Thought Your Parents Were Weird! (1991)
If you sometimes hide the truth or add too much drama, parents will have a harder time believing what you tell them. If you lie, they'll find it hard to trust you. Try to understand their point of view. If you have a disagreement, can you see your parents' side? If you can, say so. Telling parents you understand their views and feelings helps them be willing to see yours, too. Try not to argue or whine. Using a tone that's friendly and respectful makes it more likely parents will listen and take what you say seriously.
It also makes it more likely that they'll talk to you in the same way.FUNNY TIK TOK TRY NOT TO LAUGH
Of course, this is hard for any of us adults included when we're feeling heated about something. If you think your emotions might get the better of you, do something to blow off steam before talking: Go for a run.