Dating as a Single Parent - Christian Dating, Singles
As a single parent, have you ever wondered what your kids would say about the way you date? When asked what she wishes her mom would. Pre-dating preparation usually begins with single parents having to recover from something: a death, a divorce (or relationship breakup), or some other. The other day I typed 'Christian Single Parent' into an on-line search engine and was surprised when more dating websites came up than parenting sites!.
If you are a single Christian parent, and struggling with the burdens of life. You cannot do it all, no matter what that single parent prayer says.
Dating as a Single Parent
So take a bow you deserve it! Plan a little time just for you in order to recharge. Even Jesus got away into the wilderness to pray for a while, apart from his kids…the disciples! If that means a bubble bath and a great book, go for it. Join a singles group fellowship where you can encourage others and be encouraged. While many churches are failing to meet the needs of singles and single parents dating, there are those who have formed local Christian singles support groups and specialized ministries for parents and kids.
Find one and stick with it. You and your kids will both be happier for it.
Remember to leave your anxieties with Jesus, who promises never to leave you or your kids nor forsake you Hebrews Are these just empty words, or real promises from a Heavenly Father? Finally, because we believe local fellowship is a great place to grow spiritually and meet other singles with similar issues, Oasis-Church-NJ.
If you know of a singles group ministry or single Christian parent support group that should be listed, submit it to us here. Please also consider helping other Christian single parents and other singles by posting your comments.
The Single Parent and Dating; is two really better than one?
When will you go out? Who will watch your children? When is the right time for your children to meet the person that you are dating? How emotionally invested will you allow yourself to become? If you determine that there is room in your life after your commitments to yourself, your children, your family and your relationship with God to invite someone into the equation without compromising anything or upsetting the balance of your life, proceed slowly.
Christian Single Parents
Take careful inventory of your life to be sure. Talk with your children about your decision to date and listen intently to their questions or comments.
Your children may not be comfortable with that decision and until they are, it is my personal opinion that dating not be your priority. Your children have only one childhood and you will have the rest of your life to pursue relationships. If your soul-mate does arrive on the scene then he or she will understand, and in fact desire, that your relationship with your children be the priority during your dating relationship.
A quality person with honorable intentions and a strong moral fiber would want to preserve the sanctity of your relationship with your children and not compromise any stability in your home for their own needs or desires. That soul-mate will work with you to provide a safe environment for everyone and will want to join you in your efforts to raise your children in the best possible way!
My decision was to take these years to parent and to develop myself.
I decided to invest in myself before I take the time to invest in someone else. I am doing that by putting the needs of my children first and by pursuing a graduate degree, publishing The Sea Glass Hunter, Living a Productive Life as a Christian Single Parent, enjoying my position as the Executive Director of a non-profit organization and learning to golf.
I want to know that when my children leave to go to college in a few short years that I taught them everything I could, I was the best role model I could have been and have no regrets about the choices that I made. By making the decision not to date while raising my children I also know that I will have taken the time to become the best person I can be and that will make a difference in any relationships that come down the road! Make your choice intentionally, prayerfully and deliberately and put yourself and your children first!